The friends-lovers relationship is not always a good idea.
Although it seems logical that a friend who cares for you could make a loving, romantic partner, this is often not the case. Although there have been stories of longtime friends realizing that they are soul mates, the element that is usually missing in a friendship is a strong physical attraction
—something that is usually felt within minutes or days of meeting someone. The fact that your newly appointed boyfriend or girlfriend is avoiding you probably means that he prefers being a friend, rather than a lover.
By acting out his feelings rather than telling you, he probably thinks that he won't have to hurt you, but his behavior is hurting you just the same.
If he/she truly is your best friend, then he/she will summon the courage to tell the truth.
Prepare yourself to hear what is causing his behavior and then ask him/her straight out: Do you want to be my boyfriend/girlfriend or would you feel more comfortable if we went back to being friends?
Remember that people sometimes act out what they don't have the courage to put into words.
(from love-quotes quotation)
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