Loving someone who ALREADY COMMITTED...and Loving someone while YOU ARE COMMITTED

Everyone of us, as a human and as a person who knows how to love, were always finding someone who will spend their days and nights for their est of their lives..It is a part of our life, we love and then we hurt, we hurt because we love. Life is a cycle, it is a cycle, what we have done to others someday or somehow, others will do the same way to us.
Losing someone we love is not so easy, you feel like its the end of the world, and the world stop revolving,and there's nothing you can do, you just sit, think anything, get drunk, and get wild as much as you could release all the hurts that is in your body.You can't just move on easily, you couldn't think what is right or wrong, you doesn't even know what to do. .We may call this a dying Love.

Ok lets get back to the topic. In their view, love represents a total devotion of one person—heart, soul, and body—to another, which implies that you can never love a second person without taking something away from the first. Love is monogamy in motion. It is! you can exclusively promise affection with someone you love.

Third party is the common cause of break ups, we can't blame someone around who will find someone that will give them their needs, who help them to feel their importance, who will give them attention and appreciation, who will provide them the love that each of us were craving for.
But the question is why a single fell in love with someone who already committed? And why those committed express some affection to a single even if they even know that it may not work. It is so hard to defend someone who are already committed when they fell in love with a person who is not in a relationships, when in ourselves were not even sure we want a monogamy relationship.
But in some reason, some couple tend not to have an exclusive relationship. Some will say it as an open relationship, no feelings, no affections, no strings attached. They both chose not to have a bond, a matrimony, a formal announcement of relationships.

Falling in love with someone who already committed and falling in love when you are committed is one of the major topic in internet, and here are some advices from the people who are concerned..

-maybe were just misinterpret the friendship into a lover,

-Love is ever changing and there are different types of love. My suggestion is never to jump in to quickly but maybe talking to the object of your affection about the situation could help. Never intentionally hurt the person who was there first. That is why you talk constantly communication is key.

-We tend to fall for all sorts of people for all sorts of reasons. You may find that you are attracted to one type of person yet fall for a completely different type. Love is an uncontrollable feeling. We can't help who we fall in love with and just because your in a committed relationship doesn't mean it disables you from having feelings for someone else. Although, love can also be a very confusing emotion. Its hard to tell the difference between love and lust sometimes. So, yes, it is possible to fall in love with more than one person, committed or not. But, you have to make the decision whether or not its really love or just lust and make the ultimate decision of who you want to be with.

-Just because you are in a long-term relationship, it does not mean that you are in love. Perhaps you were once, but the same way that we fall in love, we can fall out of love. Being in love is not a permanent state. Love doesn't last forever; instead, it is the commitment to the relationship that makes it last. My question to you is "are you committed to your relationship?"

-In reality, that can happen. We are human and we are subject to all kinds of distractions and mixed emotions and feelings.That is commonly termed as Infatuation. Because the present person you are with seems to be lacking something, you tend to find that missing quality in some onle else. However when u look carefully its not worth doing because you already have someone that loves and care for you a whole lot and not because they lack a few qualities that dont means you should throw it all away for someone that has this 1 quality. Unless the situation differs. Its like to 80 - 20 rule.

-I think you can love more than one person, but I do not know if you can be "in love" with more than one or else that is not committed. You can't control your heart, even when you try to suppress feelings. There will always be someone taller, wealthier, funnier, smarter, or better looking. A truly committed relationship will keep you from straying.

Our Feelings are uncontrollable, if your heart leads you maybe sometimes it is right but most of the times it is not. Love but you also must use your head, think if it is right, if you comfortable with it, go and continue if it is not, stop being stupid, and just move on. Im ok maybe you may say that but still your heart refusing, and that will be the problem.

Our mind and our feeling is always contradicting with each other, some say use your head or your mind not your heart,.some says follow your heart it will lead you to the right. But in the bottom line even if we follow our heart or our mind it's up to us on what we most feel, if you feel that your happy with her/him, take the risk! It doesn't make any sense if she/he is commited, remember that there are a level of commitments, if you're not yet bonded by Holy matrimony you have the right to chose, don't let yourself suffer when you get married. Relationship is a process, once you get there it doesn't mean that was the climax, it has a process of learning, knowing, and love. If both of you know how to forgive, how to love, how to listen, how to do anything that both of you were helping each other to overcome a test, then you should decide to bless with the matrimony.

But if you feel something for someone its for you to decide, don't make your self hanging around, dont keep yourself from someone whom you only felt pity for him/her.

Love is a mystery, we don't have an exact meaning for love, it is for us on how we live on it, on how we delivered it, on how we feel it and think of it,maybe you tend to be an idot, because you love someone that you know he/she is already commited, but you can't blame yourself, if that someone shows some affections to you and you feel it deeply, in that manner no one may stop you.
But if you know that their relationship truly works, its better to stop and find someone, stop being stupid and live your life, just find someone that may love you.

Love is always floating. Love is mystery.

It will be a great help if you approach some friends and tell them your feelings, have some advice. This will help you a lot, to decide for what is right.

Loving someone who already committed. Many people will inspires you and tell you to run after them and tell him/her what you feel, fight for you feelings. But accept the fact that the chances are not high. You just need to keep up your chin and keep your eyes open because there is someone out there for you and no matter what you will run into them or meet them at one point in your life because fate is there and fate always works things out. It is normal to fell in love with someone who already committed, we can't say it is abnormal, we tend to love, and love just happens when it happens it is beyond our expectations. You either love someone or you don't. We can't push ourselves to love someone if you don't wanted and we can't make ourselves not to love someone.