The Hotel Elizabeth Cebu

Coffee Shop Area at Ground Floor

Second Floor Hallway

Reception Area

Ceiling at Grand Ballroom
Second Floor

Main Lobby and Reception Area
at Ground Floor

Kalituhan..Ano bang dapat gawin?

Bakit kung kailan nagmamahal ka ng tapat, saka mo mararamdaman na ang lahat ay di sapat?

Bakit ba sa tuwing nagmamahal ang tao, may mga bagay na ang hirap mahagilap? Maraming mga bagay ang hirap intindihin kung bakit ba nagaganap. Parang ang lahat ay pawang pagpapanggap.

Nagmamahal ka ng tapat subalit ang masaklap lahat ay pawang hindi sapat.

Hanggang kailan ba natin kayang isakripisyo ang lahat para mag-antay at umasa sa tao na ating pinakamamahal na walang kasiguruhan, nasabi ng aking kaibigan, “mas mainam pa na kakaunti ang iyong nalalaman para di ganun kasakit pag iyong maramdaman”, subalit di naman siguro masama na kilalanin mo mabuti ang tao na iyong minamahal, minsan napapadaig tayo sa mga bagay na ating nakikita, napapadaig tayo sa mga emosyon na ating nadarama, gayunpaman ang mga bagay na iyon ay saklaw ng ating pagkatao, ang mga bagay na iyon ay paraan lamang upang tayo ay matuto.

Sadyang napakahirap isipin, mahirap unawain, masaklap na damhin ang mga bagay na sa sarili mo alam mo na wala kang kasiguruhan. Marami kang katanungan sa kanya, ,may mga bagay ka na gusto mong alamin, tuklasin, alalahanin, gawin, at lapatan ng anumang solusyon, pero sa kabila ng lahat pilit parin siyang umiiwas na pagusapan ang mga bagay na iyon. Di mo alam kung saan ka lulugar, di mo naman ninais na masaktan, pero paulit ulit pa ring nangyayari ang mga isyu na inyong pinagaawayan.

May mga oras na gusto mo na mag-give up, may mga panahon na gusto mo na manahimik na lang, may mga sandali na mauupo ka na lang sa isang tabi at tatanungin ang iyong sarili na “Kaya ko pa ba?”, at di mo na lang mapapansin at iyo na lang madarama ang patuloy na pag-agos ng luha mula sa iyong mga mata. Masakit, mahirap, masaklap, at puno ng hinagpis ang puso mo dahil sa mga bagay na gumugulo sa isipan mo.

Sa bawat pagtangis na iyong nadarama ‘di mo inaasan na may mga tao na darating sa buhay mo na lalapat sa mga bagay na iyong ninanais. Magbibigay sigla, saya, tuwa, pag-asa at kulay sa buhay mo. Hindi mo sinasadya mahuhulog ang loob mo, at sa sandaling iyon ay makakalimot ka sa hinagpis na nakabuntot na sa buhay mo. Pero sa kabila nito, dito ka makararamdam na “KALITUHAN” at muli mong tatanungin ang iyong sarili, “ANO BA ANG DAPAT KONG GAWIN?”. Magpatuloy na mahalin ang tao na napaparamdam sa iyo ng kalungkutan na alam mo sa sarili mo na Mahal na mahal mo siya?. o Matutuhang mahalin ang tao na nagbigay sa iyo ng saya, sigla, at pag-asa?..

Mahirap timbangin ang mga bagay na gumugulo sa ating isipan. Humingi ka man ng payo galing sa iyong mga kaibigan, bakit sadyang kay hirap lapatan ng solusyon ng may katiyakan. Mata ang nakakakita, tenga ang nakadirinig ng mga bagay, pero puso pa din ang nakadarama, mahirap magdesisyon ng mga bagay na alam mo sa huli ikaw din ang talo.

Pang unawa, tiwala, pananalig, at tunay na pagmamahal ang sapat na dahilan para patuloy na umasa. Marahil inilaan ka ng Diyos sa oras na ito na masaktan, tumangis, malungkot, magdusa, at patuloy na lumuha, subalit, darating din ang panahon para iyong tamasain ang saya, sigla, makabuluhang at makulay na buhay. Darating din ang tamang oras na makasama ang tao na karapat dapat sa iyo na iyong makakasama sa hirap at ginhawa.

“When you are made to choose between two persons, don’t just think of what you’ll get when you pick one, but think of what you’ll lose when you don’t choose the other..”

Hindi lahat ng magkarelasyon ay pinagtagpo para damahin ang kasiyahan, kadalasan pinagtagpo lang kayo sa tamang oras, lugar at pagkakataon, para matutunang lumaban at itama ang anu mang kamalian…

"Pagninilay-Paano ka binago ng iyong pagmamahal??"

May mga bagay tayo na palagi nating naitatanung sa ating sarili kung bakit ba laging nangyayari.
Bakit kailangan dumanas ng hirap ng mga taong di naman karapat dapat sa kanilang nararanasan?
Kailangan ba na sa tuwing tayo ay magmamahal, kalakip lagi nito ay kalungkutan?
Ilang beses ba kailangan na magmahal at masaktan ng isang tao para lang matuto sa kanyang mga pinagdaanan?
Paano ba nating mahahanap ang tao na karapat dapat sa atin at mamahalin natin hanggang sa huli?
Paano mo panghahawakan ang mga pangako nyo sa isat isa?
Long distance Love Affair?..totoo ba na nangyayari ito?.at paano nalalaban ng nagmamahalan sa ganitong paraan ang mga tukso, pagsubok at unos na dumadating sa kanila?..
Kailan mo ba malalaman na ang tao mong minamahal sa kasalukuyan ay ang tao syang tao na makakasama mo habang buhay?
Sadyang napakamisteryo ng Pagibig, may mga bagay na akala mo un na at may tao na akala mo sya na, pero hindi pa pala. Sa oras na ito masaya ka at ngiti ang nakikita sa iyong mga labi, subalit sa paglipas ng sandali..Luha naman ang kapalit! Mahirap bang sabihin sa isang tao ang iyong tunay na nararamdaman sa una ninyong pagkikita?..kailangan ba na magkunwari para lang sa makuha mo ang hinahangad mong pagmamahal?..Sa umpisa aminin natin na pisikal ang unang bagay kung bkit mo nagugustuhan ang isang tao, kasunod nito ay ang paguugali, ang kanyang common sense, ang kanyang pamamaraan!
Sabi nila bakit mo pa patatagalin ang isang bagay kung dun din naman kayo patutungo.
Mahirap isipin at kalkulahin ang mga bagay na nasa ating isipan lalo na ang mga bagay na ating nararamdaman. Mata ang nakakakita pero puso ang nakadarama, Sundin daw ang puso at hinding hindi ka nito ililigaw. Pero ang katanungan, susundin mo pa din ba ang tinitibok ng puso mo kung ang isip mo ay bumubulong na tama na, at masakit na. Sakripisyo, unang kataga na bumabalot sa salitang pagibig. sakripisyo na handang isuko ang lahat para lang maramdaman ang ninanais, sakripisyo na kadalasan ay sumisira din sa iyong pagkatao, sakripisyo na umuubos sa iyong pride. Hanggang kailan mo ipagpapatuloy na magsakripisyo para sa tao mong minamahal?. Hanggang kailan mo isasakripisyo ang iyong pagkatao para lang manatili sa iyo ang taong iyong minamahal? Masakit, malungkot, nababalot ng puot at pasakit ang tunay na pagibig. Ganyan ang paraan ng tunay na pagmamahal. Nuong bata tayo naalala nyo ba yung una ninyong pagsakay sa isang bisikleta?.may mga oras na kaw ay nabubuwal at sa iyong pagkakabuwal ikaw ay tatayo at ipagpapatuloy ang pagaaral ng pamimisikleta , may oras na humihinto ka para makakuha ng bwelo, nagpapatulong sa isang kaibigan para ikaw ay anu mang hirap na iyong dinaranas ay may kasama ka, at kadalasan tayo ay nasusugatan,may mababaw at may malalim na sugat. Sa pagibig kailangn ba ganun din?. Kailangan mo pa ba na masaktan para matuto?.kailangan mo pa bang madapa ng ilang beses para masabing ikaw ay natuto na, Kailangn mo pa bang masugatan para lang maramdaman ang sakit na idinulot nito at magising sa katotohanan?. Mahirap unawain, mahirap isabuhay, mahirap kalimutan, mahirap matuto, mahirap bumangon kung lugmok ka na sa sakit na iyong nararamdaman. Lahat tayo nagmahal at nagmamahal, sa ating pagmamaneho sa byahe ng buhay, ang minsan na pagkakadapa ay sapat na, lakas ng luob, tiwala sa sarili, tapat ng pagmamahal, at dasal sa Poong Maykapal ang kailangan para makamit ang pagmamahal na ating minimithi sa buhay.
Sadyang malaro ang buhay, maraming mga bagay sa isang hudyat lang ay maaaring magbago. Madali ang magmahal subalit ang mahirap ay ang makahanap ng tao na karapat dapat pagkalooban ng pagmamahal.. Madaling magmahal subalit mahirap panghawakan, mahirap pangalagaan. Minsan natatapos na lang ang isang relasyon sa isang masaklap na kaganapan, dahil sa mga maling desisyon na ating ginawa at pinanghahawakan. Maraming pagbabago ang dumadating sa ating buhay, maraming mga tao ang ating nakakasalamuha, mas may lamang sa pisikal na aspeto, mas mayaman, mas edukado, mas may dating. Tao tayo at kasama tayo sa mga bagay na nakakaramdam ng pagbabago, halo halong emosyon at damdamin. Minsan dahil sa kakulangan ng mga bagay ng iyong minamahal, natutukso ka na humanap ng tao na makakakitaan mo ng bagay na yun at sa sandaling makuha mo na ang bagay na iyon, itatapon mo na lang at kakalimutan ang iyong minamahal dahil lamang sa ganung kababaw na dahilan. Bkit di mo subukan na tingnan, suriin at damhin ang mga bagay na mayroon sa iyong minamahal, ang kanyang tapat na pagmamahal, pagaalaga, tiwala, respeto sa iyo na kanyang ibinigay mula ng kayo ay nagkakilala. dahil lang ba sa iilang bagay na kanyang pagkukulang ay iyo na lang syang iiwan?. Maling desisyon ng buhay, sa isang desisyon maaaring lahat ay magbago.
Sadyang napakahirap pumasok sa isang relasyon, napakadaling magmahal, napakadaling ibigay ang tiwala, pero sa sandaling ikaw ay masaktan bakit sadyang kay hirap kalimutan. Napakaraming katanungan subalit iilan lamang ang tumpak na kasagutan. Sarili lang natin ang makakasagot ng mga bagay ding ito, di mahalaga na ituro at ipaalam sa atin kung paano malalampasan at malalaman ang tunay na kahulugan ng pagibig,. Panahon na lang din ang makapagbabago ng mga bagay na ating naranasan! Ang mahalaga sa bawat oras ng iyong pagkakadapa ay patuloy ka pa ding bumabangon, lumalaban! Ang pagsuko ay isang pagpapakita ng kaduwagan, hindi masama na maglaan ng sakripisyo at hamunin ang panahon para sa iyong mga ninanais. Hindi masama na subukan muli, magpakita ng tapang, tatag ng luob, tiwala sa sarili para makamit ang iyong minimithi. Iwaksi ang takot, timbangin ang mga bagay, di masama na sundin ang tinitibok ng puso, subalit lagi paring ikonsidera ang binubulong ng iyong isip. At maglaan ng oras na kausapin ang nasa taas, ang Poong Maykapal para maliwanagan at magkaroon ng gabay.

"Hinayang"

may mga bagay na panahon lang makakapagturo sayo,

tulad ng kung gaano mo kamahal ang isang tao.
madalas malalaman mo lang kung gano mo
xa kamahal kapag wala na siya sayo..

umaasa ka lang na sa paglipas ng panahon maibabalik
mo kung ano ang nawala sa iyo,
o kaya d na mababalik ang dati-
babaguhin na lang ng panahon ang lahat ng bagay.

pero bakit di mabago ng panahon ang puso mo?
bakit kahit alam mong tapos na ang lahat
pilit mong binabalikan ang simula?

lagi mong tinatanong:

paano kaya kung mas minahal mo siya?
paano kaya kung d mo na lang siya minahal?
pano kaya kung di na lang kayo nagkakilala para mabura mo na siya sa ala ala mo?

paano kaya kung noong nagkatagpo kayo ibang tao ka
at ibang tao din siya sa sa ibang pagkakataon,
sa ibang lugar, sa ibang panahon?

maiiba na din kaya tadhana niyo?
kamay mo na ba ang hawak niya?
pangalan mo na ba ang bukangbibig niya?

ikaw na ba ang nasa tabi niya?
ikaw na ba kayakap niya?
ikaw na ba ang dahilan ng mga ngiti niya?
o ikaw rin ba ang dahilan kung bakit mas pinili niyang magmahal na lang ng iba?
kayo pa rin ba talaga ang para sa isa't isa?

Always missing you miel..

True,,..Indeed

I am not in love with you!..(Lie!!!) :)))
Missing you always Miel..
When i wasn't talk to you for just 2 days or even a day or an hour..
it feels like part of me was missing!!.
Missing you badly:(
I love you so much♥♥♥

♥nly y♥u!

Enough love (Emmet Fox)

There is no difficulty that enough love will not conquer;
no disease that enough love will not heal;
no door that enough love will not open;
no gulf that enough love will not bridge;
no wall that enough love will not throw down;
no sin that enough love will not redeem...
It makes no difference how deeply seated may be the trouble;
how hopeless the outlook; how muddled the tangle; how great the mistake.
A sufficient realization of love will dissolve it all.
If only you could love enough you would be
the happiest and most powerful being in the world...

"Mi Miel"

A life once lived in grief
of pain, sorrow and sadness
Thought love was an imaginary relief
Oblivious of real happiness

Then you suddenly came along
And brought such difference
the feeling of bursting into a song
Filling my empty hearts absence

You have given me everything
By making my life worthwhile
With Your sweet nothings
Miel I'm at awe with your style

With this I ask you, Are you ready?
To build bridges and swim seas
Can you make a chance with me?
In our highs and our bliss..

I would promise you my life
Give up my cynical pride
Be There through the strife
With my arms open wide

Now I know where I wanna be
With you, for you, by you
I'm not the man i used to be
Cos miel I'm so in love with you

Emmerson N. Nueda

Work/ Trippings...

It is not enough that all things should teach upon you, it is better to know all things in person, and realized how wonderful life is..

Its been two years since i got here in Cebu, I came here in Cebu for project assignment, i worked as Architectural in charge in a construction firm, at present were now working for a Hotel building which target to finished by the end of July, I came here alone, at first i was with my Project manager for four months but eventually he was transfer to another project, so i was left alone to manage the project but with the help of my staff.
Its been so busy days since i managed the project alone, so there are times i need to give up and left the project since there are no person at all who can help me. The whole week i made myself busy so that I don't get upset or depressed.
I am now assigned here in Hotel Elizabeth as architectural in charge and it was fun to worked with my new colleagues because some of them are in my age. And its a challenge also for me to worked with some of the known architects and engineers in the field. Unlike my recent project here in Cebu, Construction of the Hotel is not so easy, there are a lot of things to consider and so many plans that needs to familiarize, but if you give patience, discipline and perseverance and hard work, anything will be easy.
Work without a break may gives you stress, and bad aura..hehe! CMG trip Pics are follows...

Guimaras and Iloilo Trip...

Cliff at the Guimaras island

Grotto

View at the Guimaras

Guimaras cave



A private resort at Guimaras Island

ready for a jump!

Bohol Trip...

Chocolate Hills in Bohol



Loboc River 01



Loboc river 02
Warm welcome from the natives of Loboc




End of Loboc River



Lunch at Loboc River with CMG

Before taking the ride from Floating Restaurant

Loboc Historical Church

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My Everything...

My life was change, because of you

You own me now, my heart is yours
And do give yours to me..
Lets locked them up together,
And throw away the key
We'll see each other soon

And we'll share our dreams with our family,

No more frown and lonely nights
Because you're now here with me,
Don't feel blue cause I will take care of you,
Don't feel alone cause I'll always be there for you
Even if were miles away, you'll always be here in my heart..
I will climb the highest mountains,
I will swim the deepest sea,
I will cross every ocean,
Just to be right there were you are,
Cause you are my everything,
You're the reason why I'm breathing
You're the reason why I'm Living
You're the reason why I'm Moving..
I will stand on the highest cliff,
And shout to the world how much I love you..
Tell everyone that you're the only one..
No one else can make me feel this way,
I thank GOD that I have you,
I'm glad that I found you..
So just remember,
I love you yesterday,
today, and tomorrow,
and Forever
so please stay..
cause You're my everything....

To You I SAY Goodbye....

I hate goodbye,coz it's hard to say it,
even if it hurts,there's no other way to try,
you told me to stay,but my heart never say,
that i can stay as your friend along the way..
you know what i wanted, but its not what you've said,
you're taking me for granted,
and it feels like I always been rejected,
you give me attention just for a minute
but it hurts me a lot every minute,
and now my heart was bruised,
crushed and burned,
its hard to accept,but it's the reality,
I need to go,Move on, and grow,
Faith will let us meet again,keep in touch,
for our lives are only beginning,
there are lots of things
to look forward to,
I will miss YOU,
the stone had been cast,
To you i say Goodbye..

Without YOU...I'm Empty

Lying in the dark,
with rows of bloody red roses
stained in the wooden floors,
scratched, scars, wounds shattered in my heart,
It was cold and alone outside,
while crushed and broken inside,
and muttered the sound of cry..
Then Suddenly time
began to stop,
my breath was moving with the misguided beat of my heart
Coz you're the one who kept me on living,
breathing, moving and believing
and after you left , you took my heart away with you,
Now what i do is to play those memories with you,
all the good times and the thoughts that we've share
all the laughters and cry we've made
Remembering your words like a lightning strikes,
your kiss that makes heart beat so fast,
your voice so tender, that makes me shiver..
Your lips so soft like a new budding rose....
And now all i have to do is to kept those promise to you
I will still love you, and really care for you
and when that times comes that you'll be in my arms
We will be TOGETHER from then till FOREVER..
Dreaming beside you,
wishing near from you,
Knowing you better,
wanting your love,
falling on you,
hoping from you
and so I'll be WAITING on you...
Coz my LIFE is EMPTY,....Without YOU..

κενότητα

A feeling of emptiness is an unhappy or frightening feeling that nothing is worthwhile, especially when you are very tired or have just experienced something upsetting.

Do you feel rejected? Do you feel empty, alone and lonely? Do you want something but anything you do just to get it didn't work? Are you longing for a success? Are you not contented with what you have now? Do you find your happiness?

Emptiness is a kind of feelings which we always afraid to feel, there are always a time we afraid to do something, there are things that always played in our mind, we tend to make all things difficult, we always get things complicated. We always search for something that we're sure its the best way to overcome this feelings. Maybe we discovered things that is not working with our mind and is not producing a tranquility.

As we walked through this life, we always encountered things that gives us the reason to asked our self ..What if?, why?, how come?, when i could feel freedom?, where could i found peace?.Where do i begin?

When we were younger we always take a view of life easy, we don't even think its importance, its true meaning,its true value. When we get bored we just sit and watched TV and tune in our favorite cartoon shows, we just spend all days in playing and we don't feel empty as long as we have something that makes us happy, we were just contented on what we have.

When we grow older and when we get bored, in often times it is normal to open our tv and watched movies, we get a night out with friends, out of town, or past time in malls.

When i was in college, there are a lot of things i dreamed and wished for, i was born nothing, i came from a simple family with a simple life. I only have a pair of shoes which i used from my high school days up to my third year in college, i only have 3 pants which my aunt given to me. I have 6 shirts with different colors, but only one brand! i feel envy that time with my classmates, because they had all things they want, new shirts, pants, shoes, a brand new cellphones and either an expensive car. I feel angry why i was born like this, I feel empty. And i am not contented with what i have that time. I feel rejected with my surroundings. One time i decided to go to church and pray, pray for all those materialistic things, pray that someday God will help me to have those things, and I watched all those people who were entering the church that time, i observe their actions, and their effort on praying, and that time it's flash on my mind if what was their prayers for?, do they also feel emptied like me, because as i saw, they arrived in church with a expensive car, with a branded shirts and pants, and so whats makes them to decide to go to church and pray?. Do we pray in common, after a while i saw this young men top naked, with bruises on his arms, with nasty and dirty hair, and is seated outside in front of the church, also praying, then suddenly i realized how futile and empty all it was, if i got all those things i wanted i always be unsatisfied, i wanted more the things i dreamed of, i wanted someone for real, I wanted something that wouldn't leave me feeling empty after a little while. i realized if i got those things could i feel happiness?. Could i free myself from emptiness?.

Life's get bored when we don't get all things we wanted, we always search for our happiness, we always search for peace, we always want someone who will not leaves us and lead us to feel empty..
Our fear is one of the things that gives us emptiness, lack of faith causes fear, and that fear causes our action and our mind to stop and be contented for what we have then suddenly you will feel emptiness.

Spacious openness in which all experiences self-liberate is one of the best things that we can do to surpass this feelings of being empty, we begin to see that this thing we call 'life' is a succession of experiences, of sensations, emotions and thoughts. And we begin that the notion of 'me' is one of the succession of overcoming an emptied life.(from Luminous Emptiness- a Mahamudra blog)

We were only frustrate with our desires, we were only not understand of what we are encountering, we just need to meditate and motivate ourselves from this side of life. Observe things happened in the bright side, Learned how to accept who you are, learned to accept that we couldn't get all things we wanted, in times it is important that we delivered the truthfulness of our life, need to see our dark side and practice to surpass and control it.

Our character and our personalities is a part of life that we should make a clear path of changes. Not all of us should leave in common, no one of us should be drown in emptiness, there are always a cure for this it is "you", it is "me", it is "us" who is need to move, act, and do changes in life. Be aware in anything and in everything, open our eyes on something that might be useful for changes that we need, clarify, and see if life is truly and deeply magnify importance of contentment, experience and explore anything that will help to open up your mind from all things that cause you fear to do one thing. What you wished and dreamed for?. illuminate it..and know the consequences on how to pursue it, Emptiness is a frightening feeling that nothing is a worthwhile..but if we just analyze anything that makes our self feels empty, nothing is impossible to overcome this feelings. Life is a matter of choices, if we chose to be emptied, make sure we know how to surpass it..Don't make yourself focus on things which is just an illusion, make something in reality, believe and have faith, you are the one who control your self, leave behind your negative aspects and follow your positive views on beyond your expectations.http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MqywO9RTrb8

Hotel Elizabeth-Cebu

Hotel Elizabeth now nearly to be completed by the end of this year, this eleven storey Mediterranean inspired hotel plan to be opened before SINULOG 2011. Principal Architect: Leonardo A. Poco, interior designed by TREzza Group headed by Ms. Tessa Prieto-Valdez, Construction Management group headed by Arch. Vergel T. Gloria, and General Contractor: Art Builders Construction & Mgt. Inc. headed by Engr. Liza Dela Rosa.

View from the Third Floor deck



Typical Passenger Elevator LOBBY



Front Facade

Second Floor Hallway

View from One Acacia Place
Front Elevation

I am missing the sound of your laughter inside my heart, missing you the time you continue our conversations with a song, and you dedicate that song to me, missing how you cares for me. I miss the sweetness of your words, your voice that makes me shiver, your kiss that makes my life complete.
I never thought it would end like this.

All these times since you left, i cried alone thinking maybe i should call you just to see if you're home and safe. I always wanted to tell you if you were mine you're the only one, I'll be your everything, I would tell everyone that your the only one that I could ever want, everything i dreamed about everything I talked about is about you, I wanna get closer to you.
Now my life must go on and time to grow and move on, after all this I need to find my strength and continue life. But all my promises will always be there waiting for you. Things will change but my love for you will be remain, as i always telling you, i will prefer to be single forever, if i haven't seen anyone like you. I'll wait for you to be free again, until that time comes i will promise to you, nothing will change on how much i love you. Though I can't blame you, why this happened, since i met and know you, i know that you were committed, love just happened, and i don't know why..you're the one person in my life i treasured most.
Now, the only thing i can do is to play those memories from you, sharing thoughts and views. SHARK I'll be fine. I'll wait for you. How i wish someday we will be together, sharing dreams and plans.

Please stay who you are. I LOVE YOU....

-emman

Loving someone who ALREADY COMMITTED...and Loving someone while YOU ARE COMMITTED

Everyone of us, as a human and as a person who knows how to love, were always finding someone who will spend their days and nights for their est of their lives..It is a part of our life, we love and then we hurt, we hurt because we love. Life is a cycle, it is a cycle, what we have done to others someday or somehow, others will do the same way to us.
Losing someone we love is not so easy, you feel like its the end of the world, and the world stop revolving,and there's nothing you can do, you just sit, think anything, get drunk, and get wild as much as you could release all the hurts that is in your body.You can't just move on easily, you couldn't think what is right or wrong, you doesn't even know what to do. .We may call this a dying Love.

Ok lets get back to the topic. In their view, love represents a total devotion of one person—heart, soul, and body—to another, which implies that you can never love a second person without taking something away from the first. Love is monogamy in motion. It is! you can exclusively promise affection with someone you love.

Third party is the common cause of break ups, we can't blame someone around who will find someone that will give them their needs, who help them to feel their importance, who will give them attention and appreciation, who will provide them the love that each of us were craving for.
But the question is why a single fell in love with someone who already committed? And why those committed express some affection to a single even if they even know that it may not work. It is so hard to defend someone who are already committed when they fell in love with a person who is not in a relationships, when in ourselves were not even sure we want a monogamy relationship.
But in some reason, some couple tend not to have an exclusive relationship. Some will say it as an open relationship, no feelings, no affections, no strings attached. They both chose not to have a bond, a matrimony, a formal announcement of relationships.

Falling in love with someone who already committed and falling in love when you are committed is one of the major topic in internet, and here are some advices from the people who are concerned..

-maybe were just misinterpret the friendship into a lover,

-Love is ever changing and there are different types of love. My suggestion is never to jump in to quickly but maybe talking to the object of your affection about the situation could help. Never intentionally hurt the person who was there first. That is why you talk constantly communication is key.

-We tend to fall for all sorts of people for all sorts of reasons. You may find that you are attracted to one type of person yet fall for a completely different type. Love is an uncontrollable feeling. We can't help who we fall in love with and just because your in a committed relationship doesn't mean it disables you from having feelings for someone else. Although, love can also be a very confusing emotion. Its hard to tell the difference between love and lust sometimes. So, yes, it is possible to fall in love with more than one person, committed or not. But, you have to make the decision whether or not its really love or just lust and make the ultimate decision of who you want to be with.

-Just because you are in a long-term relationship, it does not mean that you are in love. Perhaps you were once, but the same way that we fall in love, we can fall out of love. Being in love is not a permanent state. Love doesn't last forever; instead, it is the commitment to the relationship that makes it last. My question to you is "are you committed to your relationship?"

-In reality, that can happen. We are human and we are subject to all kinds of distractions and mixed emotions and feelings.That is commonly termed as Infatuation. Because the present person you are with seems to be lacking something, you tend to find that missing quality in some onle else. However when u look carefully its not worth doing because you already have someone that loves and care for you a whole lot and not because they lack a few qualities that dont means you should throw it all away for someone that has this 1 quality. Unless the situation differs. Its like to 80 - 20 rule.

-I think you can love more than one person, but I do not know if you can be "in love" with more than one or else that is not committed. You can't control your heart, even when you try to suppress feelings. There will always be someone taller, wealthier, funnier, smarter, or better looking. A truly committed relationship will keep you from straying.

Our Feelings are uncontrollable, if your heart leads you maybe sometimes it is right but most of the times it is not. Love but you also must use your head, think if it is right, if you comfortable with it, go and continue if it is not, stop being stupid, and just move on. Im ok maybe you may say that but still your heart refusing, and that will be the problem.

Our mind and our feeling is always contradicting with each other, some say use your head or your mind not your heart,.some says follow your heart it will lead you to the right. But in the bottom line even if we follow our heart or our mind it's up to us on what we most feel, if you feel that your happy with her/him, take the risk! It doesn't make any sense if she/he is commited, remember that there are a level of commitments, if you're not yet bonded by Holy matrimony you have the right to chose, don't let yourself suffer when you get married. Relationship is a process, once you get there it doesn't mean that was the climax, it has a process of learning, knowing, and love. If both of you know how to forgive, how to love, how to listen, how to do anything that both of you were helping each other to overcome a test, then you should decide to bless with the matrimony.

But if you feel something for someone its for you to decide, don't make your self hanging around, dont keep yourself from someone whom you only felt pity for him/her.

Love is a mystery, we don't have an exact meaning for love, it is for us on how we live on it, on how we delivered it, on how we feel it and think of it,maybe you tend to be an idot, because you love someone that you know he/she is already commited, but you can't blame yourself, if that someone shows some affections to you and you feel it deeply, in that manner no one may stop you.
But if you know that their relationship truly works, its better to stop and find someone, stop being stupid and live your life, just find someone that may love you.

Love is always floating. Love is mystery.

It will be a great help if you approach some friends and tell them your feelings, have some advice. This will help you a lot, to decide for what is right.

Loving someone who already committed. Many people will inspires you and tell you to run after them and tell him/her what you feel, fight for you feelings. But accept the fact that the chances are not high. You just need to keep up your chin and keep your eyes open because there is someone out there for you and no matter what you will run into them or meet them at one point in your life because fate is there and fate always works things out. It is normal to fell in love with someone who already committed, we can't say it is abnormal, we tend to love, and love just happens when it happens it is beyond our expectations. You either love someone or you don't. We can't push ourselves to love someone if you don't wanted and we can't make ourselves not to love someone.

Dont ask God, Ask yourself Why?

There are so many questions in life that we wanted a clear answers, and there are a period of time that we may asked ourselves and maybe we have crossed our mind and thinking on "Why GOD is so unfair?, Why HE allow terrible things to happen in some people who doesn't deserve at all?"

Maybe here are some answer regarding this questions..

Romans 8:28-29 , "And we know that God causes everything to work together for the good of those who love God and are called according to His purpose for them. For God knew His people in advance, and He chose them to become like His Son, so that His Son would be the firstborn, with many brothers and sisters."


We already know the answers but it only played in our mind, and we can't explain and can't express it well, but when we realize and analyze it, we may think and understand that GOD allow us to encounter this trials and challenges in life just to test our faith and to prepare ourselves from the coming challenges to be strong enough to face and overcome it. One more reason is that, we only pray in times of difficulties, we neglect Him, we don't even remember Him and never talked with Him when we don't need anything. But when time comes that we were in difficulties we go to church and even do some novena's just to answer our prayers.

God give us trials and challenges and allow us to encounter difficulties so that we may know Him well with His character, His will, love and His power. Through this hardships and difficulties, people will remain on Him.
None of us wanted to have difficulties in life, we may encounter it now, but it is not for life, it will end in time on how we handle the situation. God didn't want us to suffer and lead to nothing, He wanted to assure us that we are not alone to resolved our problem, that He is always with us..

Philippians 4:6-7. (verse 6)"Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God; (v.7) and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus."

Whoever and whatever you are
"Jesus is with you ALWAYS"

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James 3:13-18

James 3:13-18
Who is wise and understanding among you? Let him show it by his good life, by deeds done in the humility that comes from wisdom. But if you harbor bitter envy and selfish ambition in your hearts, do not boast about it or deny the truth. Such "wisdom" does not come down from heaven but is earthly, unspiritual, of the devil. For where you have envy and selfish ambition, there you find disorder and every evil practice.
But the wisdom that comes from heaven is first of all pure; then peace-loving, considerate, submissive, full of mercy and good fruit, impartial and sincere. Peacemakers who sow in peace raise a harvest of righteousness

Values from the past to present times..

Another week has ended,and another week to come, -new beginning, new challenges, new people to meet, new work assignments and new life's promises.

The past is for inspiration, not imitation, for continuation, not repetition.

Let's think what we can do for the another week, let's make a goal, like Claude M. Bristol said..“The person with a fixed goal, a clear picture of his desire, or an ideal always before him, causes it, through repetition, to be buried deeply in his subconscious mind and is thus enabled, thanks to its generative and sustaining power, to realize his goal in a minimum of time and with a minimum of physical effort. Just pursue the thought unceasingly. Step by step you will achieve realization, for all your faculties and powers become directed to that end.” We, ourselves makes our fortunes, not the other, others will help you only in terms of advices and opinions on what your planning to, on what is your goal is. Do what you want in a manner way, and have some guide from above, step by step you will realize that your on your way to success.

-Lets bring our past in present, by continuing your good virtue from the past, not imitate for something that gives you problems, lets make our trials in the past week be our challenges to change our present. If your happy with what you've done in the past weeks, repeat what what you've done.

Can a Friendship Turn into a Love

The friends-lovers relationship is not always a good idea.
Although it seems logical that a friend who cares for you could make a loving, romantic partner, this is often not the case. Although there have been stories of longtime friends realizing that they are soul mates, the element that is usually missing in a friendship is a strong physical attraction

—something that is usually felt within minutes or days of meeting someone. The fact that your newly appointed boyfriend or girlfriend is avoiding you probably means that he prefers being a friend, rather than a lover.

By acting out his feelings rather than telling you, he probably thinks that he won't have to hurt you, but his behavior is hurting you just the same.
If he/she truly is your best friend, then he/she will summon the courage to tell the truth.

Prepare yourself to hear what is causing his behavior and then ask him/her straight out: Do you want to be my boyfriend/girlfriend or would you feel more comfortable if we went back to being friends?

Remember that people sometimes act out what they don't have the courage to put into words.
(from love-quotes quotation)

Lust? or Love?

Have you ever ask your self about this?..Have you experienced sometimes you need him/her because of you personal needs?..Do you know what is the reason why your holding on even if you don't know what's your holding to?..
"Love is like a rosary that full of mystery" Isn't it?
“And the two will become one flesh.' So they are no longer two, but one.” Mark 10:8.
We always ask ourselves, we were always confuse about our feelings, we may not be able to express ourselves if we have standards on choosing someone and what is our true feelings about him/her..
All of us, lets accept that at first it is the physical that we were looking for, and then it fololows with knowing each other well and the love begins.
Someone says that "I Love you" and " I love Pizza" seems to be the same..could we treat people as pizza?
To love is to give oneself to other for the sake of the other without any conditions, the risk and the sacrifices is there. Lust is to use people in our own desire and just for pleasure.What do you do when pizza satisfies your craving? It becomes a leftover. And sooner or later it gets thrown away.
Lust is for desires and pleasures, and when the desires and pleasures met you will be thrown away. Lust is only a benefit for oneself. Its just like a materials or on a particular example cellphone, once you are not in, you were out and then suddenly one will take your place.
Love is the opposite of lust, love wants the good of other, love doesn't used someone just for benefits, desires and pleasures. Love looks at the eye of the person we love not on how you will used the person for your self.
"Love and lust cannot exist with each other for the reason that love cannot wait to give while lust cannot wait to take."
"Love is patient. Love is kind. It does not envy. It does not boast. It is not proud. It is not rude. It is not self-seeking. It is not easily angered. It keeps no record of wrong doing. It does not delight in evil, but rejoices in the truth. It always protects, trusts, hopes, perseveres." --1 Corinthians 13 .
"Let us not love with words or tongue, but with actions and in truth" 1 John 3:18
So what is your status now are you IN LOVE or IN LUST?

Just a faith!

Trials in life may not be avoid and no one can escape in trials it is part of our life..use this as your key to success and changes!
We are all thinking about what if's? why? How come? when will this end..
Life is full of surprises, we don't even know what will happens next, we must be ready all the time, expect what we don't expect..
We may not be observe something and we will be surprise if it will ruined our life.
God gives us trials to test our faith, and our mind on how we handle situations, as long as we have faith on Him things will be in control as long as you have the will to overcome it we will be able to surpass anything. God test our faith in every trials, in order to wake you up from the false view of life, and maybe it is God's will to bring us back in our life.

Consider it all joy, my brothers, when you encounter various trials, for you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. And let perseverance be perfect, so that you may be perfect and complete, lacking in nothing. - James 1:2-4