MY JOURNEY TO BECOME "AN ARCHITECT"

I am the eldest of the family, and i know from the start that i have my responsibilities for them, being "Kuya" isn't really easy, I always in charge for the guidance of my younger brothers and sister when my mom and my dad were not around, expectation really matters to them, they believe in you, they expect you to be a responsible kuya and they want me to be a role model not only to my brothers and sister but also to the other members of the family.

I am a mama's boy and nothing will change the truth that i am so close with my mom, she always teach me anything and everything about life, everything she knows, how to cook your own meal, how to repair your clothes when they get damage, how to clean your own room, how to wash dishes, how to be a disciplined and a responsible Kuya.

My mom is always there for me, until now i am still single, because i always prefer to find someone who's really like my mom, sweet, funny, responsible, anything about my mom is perfect. And it used to be my standard.

There is only one reason that i feel not really embarrassed but i feel different with the other kids in town about my mom, she had a skin diseases they called it "Psoriasis" in science it is a chronic immune-mediated disease which largely affect the quality of life. More often people having this are experiencing diminished quality of life. I know from the start that some of our neighbor makes gossip about her, about her looks and about her sickness. I always feel embarrassed about her and i envy those kids who have normal mom, free from any sickness, and had a normal life, but i always feels hatred and i feel angry to those people who always make some bad gossips about her, who always insulted her because of her sickness. I love my mom so much and i will do anything for her, and also to my family, i can take a bullet for them, just to see them happy and free from anything that would bother them.

Because of lack of educational background of my dad, when i'm in elementary and high school my mom always attends meeting and affairs in my school, my dad didn't graduated in elementary he only reach grade 3, but my mom holds a degree, she's a registered midwife, so in order for us to not encounter any problems regarding all the issues in the meetings, my mom prefer to attend in everything.

We live in a simple life, my father is a farmer, we have a small farm in our province, my mom is a housewife, because of her disease, she couldn't apply into a private hospital even in public health center, they need physically fit and clean health record employee. I hate all those people who treated my mom like that, i always telling my self that one day those people who insulted my mom will kneel down to us and begging for mercy. But that's when i'm young and not fully grown up man.

When i'm in college, problems in our family gets doubled, because of the tuition fee rate and my allowances, i went to school with only a 100 pesos in my pocket, i used it for transportation and my lunch meal. We always begging for help to our neighbor, we always lend money, we always find someone who can help us in my everyday expenses. Sari-sari store in our neighbor, my cousins, my relatives, and even my teacher in high school, all of these people help me to be who i am now. They let my mom to lend money from them.

Unfortunately, when i'm in third year college, i think because of too much pressure and problems that my father handle and because of the background of his work (as a farmer), he got a lung disease, i don't know the exact name of that sickness but all i know that time his health was really bad, we don't know what to do that time, form the start of the class we have nothing to support in my college study then my father get sick.

One thing that my mom and my dad thought is that to sell our farm in order to support his medicine which is needed to maintain for at least a year and to support my studying in college. All that we have is gone, our farm, all of our assets. With these happenings in our life, it urge or it push me to work in a fast food chain in order to support myself in my study. My school hours is from 7am to 5pm, and i work in that store from 5pm to 12mn. At first it's really hard for me to do all those things/routine, school and work! Im an architecture student that time so there always a time that i need to be awake in the evening and finished all of my obligation as an arki student, doing some plates, some plans which is probably a part of being an arki student. Adjustment is really hard for me that time, but eventually after a week of continues hardwork, my body and my mind gets into it.

I graduated in college because of hardwork and perseverance of my mom and my dad, one thing bear in my mind that time is to find a job that will help them. An architecture degree holder is not as cheap as other college degrees, after studying 5 years in college we need to have at least a two years of experience before we took up board examination. We need at least a years of experience on the related field to be applied in a large and competitive company. So maybe this will be set as your clue that it's also hard to find a job having this one. Luckily, maybe because of my love and faith in God, i got a job which im not applying for, my cousin refer me to this company and on the day that i applied, i got hired! Thanks for this unexpected blessing, which God has given me, until now i am working on this company here in CEBU, and my heart still here in this company, they treated you right, my boss treated me as his son, he supported me for what i wanted to be, he supported me from my Architecture licensure exam, then i got passed and also with my Master Plumber Board examination, and i also passed. It's really amazing for someone that we should believe in ourself, set our goals, and have faith in God, and i know that everything will be alright.

These are some part of my life, i couldn't tell everything in just a single story, all i know is that i'm happy and fulfilled where and who i am now, I am now a registered Architect and a registered master plumber, i know that the time will come that i can used these licenses in my dreams to fulfill.

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